Setbacks in life are the one thing that we all go through whether rich or poor, male or female, or young and old. My life has been full of them; big ones, small ones, ones I didn’t even see coming. I am the first to admit I haven’t been the best at handling them. I normally resort to having a tantrum and locking myself away in my room; not so easy with 4 children! However, the more setbacks in life I have encountered, the more it’s led me to realise: setbacks are necessary.
One of the biggest setbacks in life I have ever faced, was finding out I was pregnant whilst studying at university. I made the decision to focus on raising my family and I have never gone back to finish my degree. I regretted that for a long time. The truth though, is that had I been committed I would have gone back. My setback has enabled me instead to hone in on what I really love and focus on it: helping others to overcome hurdles.
In the grand scheme of things you can get lost; in the not knowing why things happen the way they do. They seem random, but I promise you everything happens for a reason. As clichéd as it sounds, it’s true. These setbacks occur for a particular reason. The best way to handle it is to remain calm and reflect on what it has taught you. The lessons we learn from this are sometimes obvious, but sometimes not. That’s OK because we can’t possibly hope to know everything.
The key is resilience; the difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that the former don’t give up. Ever. Instead, they allow themselves to experience both positive and negative emotions simultaneously. They are grateful for the good but also for the bad.
Setbacks in life can be an opportunity for learning; mine led me down a path of spiritual awakening and self development. Use this opportunity to learn something about yourself. If nothing else, allow it to teach you gratitude for all the good you have been blessed with in your life.
Failure and setbacks are normal and unavoidable. They don’t reflect on you as a person, they don’t make you a failure. Retaining optimism and turning a negative into a positive is what we should all strive to achieve. You’re the one in control, not your setbacks!